I Was Married
Description:
This is a song that Sara Quin wrote and that appeared on the album The Con. Sara sings the lead vocals and the background vocals.
Lyrics:
I married in the sun (Tell me where, tell me where)
Against the stone of buildings built before
You and I were born (Start again, start again)
Into my heart confusion grows against
The muscles fought so long (Fought so long)
To control against the pull of one magnet
To another magnet to another magnet
Now we look up in (Tell me who, tell me who)
Into the eyes of bullies breaking backs
They seem so very tough (It’s a lie, it’s a lie)
They seem so very scared of us
I look into the mirror (Look into)
For evil that just does not exist
I don't see what they see (Tell them that, tell them that)
Try to control the pull of one magnet
To another magnet to another magnet
To another magnet to another
Live Performances:
Trivia and Quotes:
Interviewer: In the first song on the record, I Was Married, are you making any sort of a political statement here? Taking a stance?
Sara: It's a ‘personal political’ song. I've never thought of us as a political band and yet, I feel like we're very political people. I make my views clear about things. If people ask me, I love to tell them, but I didn't sit down and say, "I'm going write a song about gay marriage". I was just writing a song. The personal experience was that my girlfriend and I are common law, but she's American and we were doing a permanent residency application for her to stay in Canada . As part of the application process you have to go in and basically declare your common law status before a notary. So we got up really early and went to this notary in Old Montreal . I didn't want to get married and wasn't getting married but it felt so formal, like a wedding. I was thinking about how funny it is that my life seems so simple and natural, what everyone does in life. You fall in love with someone, you make sacrifices and you do things so you can stay together. Me being in love with a girl and wanting her to be with me, doing what I need to do to make her stay with me—it affects no one—yet it's terrifying to people and they think you're a monster.
Interviewer: That's fucked.
Sara: It's totally fucked. So that's what I was writing about. It's political because gay marriage is political. Our relationship is political because we're two women, and yet it's really just a little idea.
“Sara wrote it, so if I may speak on behalf of her... Her partner is from the United States, so they went through a lot of immigration things. It was a song that Sara wrote after her partner got residency [in Canada]. It is definitely a political song and in a way, it's also a true love song. No matter whether you're a gay or a mixed race couple... when you're drawn together, ultimately it doesn't matter what everybody thinks because it's so honest, true, and sincere. How can that be wrong?" - Tegan in 2007
Credits:
Sara Quin: Guitars, Keyboards, Piano, Vocals
Matt Sharp: Bass